Today’s topic is motivation. This is a big issue and many people are going to skip over this part without giving it much thought. To be quite honest with all of you, in the past I have always just skimmed through this part. Hmmm, could this be why I am still fat?
Why should I lose weight?
That is a very good question. The answer to this question is going to be the cornerstone of my weight loss plan. It should also be the cornerstone to your weight loss plan. Why do I want to lose weight? I thought of all the usual things:
- Look good naked
- Wear nice clothes
- Be able to shop in any store and not just the big and tall sections
- Put my socks on without losing my breathe
- Climb up the stairs to my apartment without feeling like I want to die
- Be able to walk around the zoo without having to stop every 15 minutes
You know, these are the usual things. They are really good reasons to lose weight. But are they good enough.
Staying Motivated
This is the key ingredient I was missing all the times I tried to lose weight before. So I thought about it some more. I can rationalize me way out of every single reason I listed above. This bothered me because if I could find a reason why these things didn’t matter then how can they motivate me.
For example, I am already married to a wonderful lady, who loves me as I am. So if I don’t look good naked it really doesn’t matter. My kids love me even if I don’t take them to the park. This process kept going.
If they aren’t that important to me, how can they make me exercise when I really don’t feel like it? How can they make me wake up an hour earlier every morning? I was already rationalizing my way out of losing fat, and I hadn’t even started yet.
I needed something more. Something stronger. I wanted to look deeper and find the real reasons I wanted to lose weight.
The SOMETHING more…
As I was thinking about why I really, honestly and truly, wanted to lose weight, my two kids ran into the room laughing. My son is 4 and my daughter is 1 and a half. As I watched them play I thought about how happy I am my life has turned out the way it has. I love my family and I don’t ever want them to have to worry about anything. That’s when a light went off inside my head. In that moment I realized something I had never realized before. This was my thought;
You know if you don’t change your lifestyle, you won’t be around long enough to enjoy watching your kids grow up.
Go back a read that again, especially any of you with children. Let me summarize it for you. Warning, this is a little blunt:
If you don’t change, you are going to die SOONER not later.
Sorry about that, sometimes I need it put bluntly or I don’t accept it.
I stopped everything I was doing and really thought about it. I mean I was floored. I had never thought about it like this before. Of course, I had read a lot of things over the years and I knew I was at risk, but it had never hit me like this before. I might not be around to see my kids grow up.
I read somewhere that if you’re a man and your waist size is over 40 inches you have a greater risk of heart disease, heart attack, diabetes, and a whole mess of other bad things. Well, I’m a man and my waist size is about 48 inches. So I am in real trouble. I really started to shake and tremble the more I thought about it. It really scared me.
My motivation
Now I’m motivated. Let me tell you, I’m really motivated. Now how do I go about staying motivated.
I know this sounds weird, but this is what I want to do. I want to be able to recreate that feeling of helplessness and fear I felt when these thought first hit me. I want to be able to recreate it at any time I need it. How can I do this?
This is what I’m doing. I took a picture of my kids. I wrote on the back of it “You are doing this for them, NEVER GIVE UP! Now get your sorry butt to the gym.” I carry this in my wallet everywhere. When I go to sleep I put it beside the bed so I can see it first thing when I wake up in the morning.
Now when I am feeling tired, all I have to do is look at the picture. When I first wake up and just want to roll over and go back to sleep, I don’t. Almost immediately after looking at the picture, those terrifying feelings return and my motivation is chugging ahead at full steam.
What this means for you
I know this is a long post but bear with me for a few more minutes. What lesson can you learn from this? Here is what I want you to remember. Before you begin to lose weight, you need to find you own source of motivation. I think that the more personal it is. The more it terrifies you. The better it will be for you. What you want to do is to create a very strong, deep and personal bond with whatever motivates you. Once you find this motivation, you need to think of ways to constantly remind yourself of it.
How can you do this? I used a picture. You can use a picture. You can write notes to yourself and paste them all over the house. Put them on the fridge, the computer, the TV, and in all the places you usually spend time. Find ways to constantly remind yourself “WHY.” Why are you doing this? I’m positive that if you do this, you, just like me, will never have to worry about finding the motivation to change.
Next time we will talk about setting goals. I think this is a pretty important step that I have usually not taken the time to do. This time is different. I will show you how I set my goals. I’ve got the motivation, now I have to decide where I want to end up.
Until tomorrow, just take baby steps